Confidence in ourselves and in our own abilities helps applicants successfully pass the interview. The confidence is shown in our appearance, manners, words and deeds. This trait is necessary in achieving the objectives and is highly valued by the HR managers in the job-seekers. Although there is a reverse side – overconfidence. What is the difference?
You are confident if:
- aware of your individuality, advantages and disadvantages;
- feel worthy of love and respect of other people;
- try under no circumstances to crouch and loose own dignity;
- properly behave in different life situations;
- sincerely express your thoughts and feelings;
- avoid lies and hypocrisy;
- independently analyze what is happening, do not rely only on the conclusions of past experience, the majority opinion, authoritative personalities and traditions;
- easily express own opinion in any collective;
- successfully perform in front of the public;
- able to insist on your own;
- adequately able to respond to the criticism, remarks, insults;
- accept people the way they are.
You are very insecure (although think that you are overconfident) if:
- strive for power over people, to glory;
- strive for domination in everything;
- resort to psychological and physical violence over people;
- arguing for any occasion;
- constantly provoke conflict situations;
- “Painfully” proud and too touchy;
- perceive any task and problem as a challenge.
Self-confidence is a protective reaction of insecure people. Too self-confident people hide their insecurity by bravado, aggression, arrogance, ostentatious courage and equanimity. HR managers believe that over confidence prevents applicant from adaptation to the company and the succession in conducting the career. One of the basic principles of HR experts – “do no harm” your company. Guided by experience, they differentiate candidates for over self-assured and confident, preferring the latter and sifting on interviews the first.
Assertiveness differs from simply uncertainty. Both personality traits are formed in childhood. As a rule, uncertainty and overconfidence are formed under the influence of wrong education or external factors.
Incorrect education forms such qualities as inaction, passivity, opportunism, deceit, resentment, anger and restlessness.
As the harmful effects of external factors are the crises situations (death of loved ones, divorce of parents, betrayal), an internal crisis (loss of sense of life), constant criticism, abuse, lack of a family of one parent, mentor, friend in life, giving a pattern of behaviour and moral crisis of society.
You are insecure if:
- hesitate in simple life situations;
- in need of help, support and approval of others;
- do not take the initiative;
- raze silent resentment and humiliation, make excuses;
- let yourself be manipulated, use yourself in other people’s interests;
- do not express your opinion, do not ask questions fearing to seem silly;
- do not know how to say “no”.
Unfortunately, not many have been correctly brought up as a child. Therefore, almost all have to engage in self-education of self-confidence. Confidence – it is experience of wins. To believe in yourself and your strength, you need often wisely and adequately to resolve a variety of life situations. Psychologists recommend to read more and study professional literature, training, producing your necessary for a successful career trait.
By: Ruslana Jakimova Smart Works Edinburgh Volunteer